The Woman Who Chose Herself
The Cage I Built
I know what it’s like to live inside a cage you helped build.
For decades, I existed within the rigid walls of right-wing Christianity, submissive marriage, and black-and-white thinking that told me exactly who to be, how to love, and what to believe.
I was the dutiful wife who co-built a $24 million business, Cornerstone, from $1,000, only to step away because motherhood was my “proper place.” I was the homeschooling mother of five who wrote my own curriculum because even in restriction, creation poured through me. I led church and political movements because justice boiled within me. I was the woman who followed every rule and still found myself trapped in a marriage where challenges escalated toward something I refused to let my daughter witness.
I checked every box I was told would bring fulfillment. But I was living inside a cage of binary thinking: good wife or selfish woman, obedient or rebellious, saved or damned.
The Choice That Changed Everything
I chose myself.
My divorce didn’t just end a marriage. It detonated an entire worldview. Without my husband, my religion, or my best friend who abandoned me for leaving “unbiblically,” I found myself hovering over a void with nothing left to hold onto, except one radical truth: whatever exists beyond all this conditioning, it must be loving. And if it isn’t? I’d rather live as if it were.
At 52, I chose myself for the first time. I filed for divorce, deconstructed my entire worldview, and began the most important work of my life: coming back into my body.
The Great Unbecoming
What followed was a complete deconstruction. Not a gentle unraveling, but a full dismantling of every binary that had ever confined me: saved or damned, good wife or selfish woman, submission or rebellion. I stopped performing. I stopped numbing. I stopped waiting for permission. And in that terrifying, gorgeous free fall, I discovered something I’d been building my entire life without knowing it: the capacity to create worlds out of nothing.
I’ve always been a visionary disruptor. Someone who looks at broken systems and instinctively knows how to revolutionize them. But now, at 58, I’m doing something different. I’m not just creating external change. I’m breaking the circuit.
Coming Home to My Body
Through plant medicines like hapé and psilocybin, alongside Kambo, I’m doing what decades of religion could never accomplish: coming back into my body. Feeling my feelings. Dissolving the dissociation that made me so productive but so numb. I’m learning what affection feels like. What fear feels like. What it means to be gorgeously, powerfully present.
This, paired with ancestral work, has taught me what it means to truly feel after decades of dissociation. I’ve discovered that healing isn’t just personal. It’s generational. When we break our own patterns, we become circuit breakers in our lineage, rewriting DNA backwards and forwards through time.
Breaking the Circuit
I’m not doing this work alone anymore. I’m doing it alongside my partner, experiencing what it means to quantum leap together rather than grow apart. I’m doing it in ceremony with women who’ve become my soul family. I’m doing it through the channeled writing of my great-grandmother Gertrude’s story, a woman from the 1800s who faced her own deconstruction, her own abuse, her own awakening. I’m not just healing myself. I’m healing backwards and forwards through lineage, rewriting DNA, becoming a circuit breaker in the ancestral motherboard.
The Work I Do Now
As I train to become a Kambo practitioner, I see the white space clearly: couples and partnerships who want to evolve together.
I know from lived experience that this journey of embodiment, awakening, and sovereignty is exponentially more powerful when you don’t have to slow down, hide, or leave your partner behind. I’m creating the containers I wish had existed when I was drowning… when I had to hire the attorney, renovate the house, and rebuild my entire identity alone.
Why I'm Here
Here's what I know: you are not alone.
There is another way — a third truth — beyond the oppressive polarity of either/or thinking. You don't have to choose between staying numb in an unhealthy relationship or burning your entire life down in isolation. You don't have to keep punishing your body, outsourcing your worth, or performing someone else's version of who you should be.
This is my medicine. This is my calling. This is the revolution I was born to lead, from the lived truth that at any age, in any system, you can wake up and choose yourself. You can deconstruct the programming. You can come home to your body. You can build the life you were always meant to live.
I don't just reject false constructs. I live The Third Truth. And I'm the guide who's already walked it, ready to show you that your healing, authenticity, and sovereignty exist within its embrace.
If you're ready to stop performing and start living a new truth, let's connect.
The Milestones
Co-founded Cornerstone: Scaled from $1K to $24M
Raised and homeschooled 5 children
Led political movement during COVID: Sued school board, helped write legislation
Filed for divorce at 52: Began complete deconstruction
Trusting another human (my partner) to know who I am again
Discovered Kambo at 55: First ceremony in Milwaukee
Training as Kambo Practitioner: Serving individuals and partnerships
Channeling ancestral story: Writing great-grandmother Gertrude's novel
Now at 58: Building embodiment and partnership healing practice
My Non-Negotiables
All of this creates a life fully lived, fully expressed and fully YOURS.
✦ You're never too old to reinvent yourself
✦ Healing yourself heals your lineage
✦ No one should have to deconstruct alone
✦ Embodiment > Achievement
✦ Couples can quantum leap together
✦ The binaries are lies
✦ Your body holds and expresses the truth
✦ Generosity is power, not depletion
✦ You are gorgeously, powerfully free
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